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Loss and Grief
Nurses often care for people who are dealing with the various stages of the grieving process. It can range from discomfort to debilitating and may last a day or a lifetime.
An understanding of some major theories of loss and grief can give nurses a framework for patient-centred care.
Grief is an emotional response to loss. The loss of a job, goal, loved one and so on may trigger grief.
Types of loss:
- Death, health, body part, social status, lifestyle, relationship, reproductive function, sexual function
Factors that can affect peoples responses to loss can include:
Age, rituals of mourning, social support, families, cultural and spiritual practices.
Summary of theories of loss
Freud: psychoanalytic theory
Freud (1917/1957) referred to grief and mourning as reactions to loss. An inability to grieve loss results in depression.
Bowlby: Protest, despair and detachment
Argued the grieving process started with loss or separation and ends with the grieving person experiencing feelings of emancipation. Three phases were identified.
- Protest: Lack of acceptance. A person protests the loss. Anger towards self/others. Crying and anger characterise this phase
- Despair: Behaviour becomes disorganised. A desire for the lost person or object to return coupled with sadness and crying. Despair mounts as efforts to deny loss begin to be juxtaposed with acceptance of permanent loss.
- Detachment: As the person realises permanent loss, both positive and negative memories are remembered. Expressions of readiness to move forward characterise this stage.
Engel: acute grief, restitution and long-term grief
3 stages of grief.
- Acute: shock and belief, along with denial. Blame, anger rise to the surface
- Restitution: Mourning is institutionalised. Painful void still felt, preoccupied thoughts of loss.
- Long term: Lost relationship put into perspective
Kubler-Ross: Stages of coping with loss
Kubler-Ross argued not all people dealing with loss go through these stages. Agued some or all of these ‘stages’ may or may not occur.
- Denial – Shock and disbelief
- Anger – resist to loss
- Bargaining – Postpone the reality of the loss
- Depression – Person works through the struggle of separation, the full impact of loss is actualised/realised
- Acceptance – Comes to terms and resumes activities with hopefulness.
Caplan: stress and loss
Period of psychological crises is precipitated by hazardous circumstances. 3 factors influence a person’s ability to deal with loss.
- The psychic pain of the broken bond and the agony of coming to terms with the loss.
- Living without the assets and guidance of the lost person or resource
- Reduced cognitive and problem-solving effectiveness associated with the distressing emotional arousal
Some nursing roles (Lemone et al., 2015):
- Promote trust. Show empathy, caring.
- Demonstrate respect for the person’s values and culture.
- Be honest and engage in active listening
- Assist in identifying the person’s feelings: anger, fear, loneliness, guilt, isolation
- Explore previous loss and how they coped
- Encourage a review of their relationships with the person they lost
- Reinforce expressions of behaviours associated with normal grieving
References
Bolby, J (1973). Attachment and loss: separation anxiety and anger (Vol. 2). New York: Basic Books
Engel, G. (1964). Grief and grieving. American Journal of Nursing, 64, 93.
Freud, S. (1917/1957). Mourning and melancholia. In J. Strachey & A. Tyson (eds), The Complete psychological works of Sigmund Freud (Vol. 14). London: Hogarth Press
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Caplan, G (1990). Loss, stress, and mental health. Community Mental Health Journal, 26(1), 27-48